Challenging conventional wisdom on grief, a pioneering therapist offers a new resource for those experiencing loss When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief. “Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form,” says Megan Devine. “It is a natural and sane response to loss.” So, why does our culture treat grief like a disease to be cured as quickly as possible? In It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides—as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner—Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, you’ll learn: • Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief • How challenging the myths of grief—doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold—allows us to accept grief as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve • Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to “fix” your pain • How to help the people you love—with essays to teach us the best skills, checklists, and suggestions for supporting and comforting others through the grieving process Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to “solve” grief. Megan writes, “Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution.” Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face—in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world. It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better.

Author Megan Devine
Isbn 1622039084
Genre Psychology
Year 2017-10-01
Pages 280
Language English
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An illustrated journal for meeting grief with honesty and kindness—honoring loss, rather than packing it away With her breakout book It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine struck a chord with thousands of readers through her honest, validating approach to grief. In her same direct, no-platitudes style, she now offers How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed—a journal filled with unique, creative ways to open a dialogue with grief itself. “Being allowed to tell the truth about your grief is an incredibly powerful act,” she says. “This journal enables you to tell your whole story, without the need to tack on a happy ending where there isn’t one.” Grief is a natural response to death and loss—it’s not an illness to be cured or a problem to be fixed. This workbook contains no clichés, timetables, or checklists of stages to get through; it won’t help you “move past” or put your loss behind you. Instead, you’ll find encouragement, self-care exercises, and daily tools, including: •Writing prompts to help you honor your pain and heartbreak • On-the-spot practices for tough situations—like grocery store trips, the sleepless nights, and being the “awkward guest” • The art of healthy distraction and self-care • What you can do when you worry that “moving on” means “letting go of love” • Practical advice for fielding the dreaded “How are you doing?” question • What it means to find meaning in your loss • How to hold joy and grief at the same time • Tear-and-share resources to help you educate friends and allies • The “Griever’s Bill of Rights,” and much more Your grief, like your love, belongs to you. No one has the right to dictate, judge, or dismiss what is yours to live. How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed is a journal and everyday companion to help you enter a conversation with your grief, find your own truth, and live into the life you didn’t ask for—but is here nonetheless.

Author Megan Devine
Isbn 1649630093
Genre Self-Help
Year 2021-08-10
Pages 216
Language English
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“This book aims to help you relearn your world . . . to help you navigate the grieving process as best you can—without hiding from your feelings or denying the reality, or significance, of your loss.”—from Resilient Grieving The death of someone we hold dear may be inevitable; being paralyzed by our grief is not. A growing body of research has revealed our capacity for resilient grieving, our innate ability to respond to traumatic loss by finding ways to grow—by becoming more engaged with our lives, and discovering new, profound meaning. Author and resilience/well-being expert Lucy Hone, a pioneer in fusing positive psychology and bereavement research, was faced with her own inescapable sorrow when, in 2014, her 12-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident. By following the strategies of resilient grieving, she found a proactive way to move through her grief, and, over time, embrace life again. Resilient Grieving offers an empowering alternative to the five-stage Kübler-Ross model of grief—and makes clear our inherent capacity for growth following the trauma of a loss that changes everything.

Author Lucy Hone
Isbn 1615193766
Genre Self-Help
Year 2017-03-21
Pages 256
Language English
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Combining the science of emotional trauma with concrete psychological techniques— including dream interpretation, journaling, mindfulness exercises, and meditation—Shulman's frank and empathetic account will help readers regain their emotional balance by navigating the passage from profound sorrow to healing and growth.

Author Lisa M. Shulman
Isbn 142142696X
Genre Psychology
Year 2018-12-14
Pages 184
Language English
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A Grief and Trauma Recovery and Wellness Guide “Lily has written a heart-warming, courageous book, offering pages of wisdom, guidance, and hope to all who are grieving unbearable loss.” ―Trudy Goodman, founder of InsightLA How inspired qualities and affirmations helped one mother honor her loved one, cope with grief, and give grief meaning. Help through the mourning process using self-healing methods. How do you make sense of loss and tragedy? After the sudden and devastating loss of her infant daughter, Lily Dulan (a marriage and family therapist, psychotherapist and certified yoga teacher) meditated, prayed, and ruminated on the only thing she had left–her baby girl’s name. In Lily’s courage to address and move through her pain, she developed a cross pollination of proven psychological modalities, 12-step wellness tools, spiritual healing applications, meditations, and ancient yoga self-help processes she called “The Name Work”. In her heartfelt memoir, Lily shares her healing journey and her method for unleashing the power in names and giving them special meaning to help move through the grief process in a thoughtful and transformative way. What’s in a name? Meanings! The Name Work method teaches you how to assign special meaning and qualities to the letters in names–a deceased loved one’s or your own–and how to create positive affirmations for each letter’s attribute. It is a tangible and personal self-healing method for whatever obstacles arise; a unique, new wellness tool for healing and self-discovery. The Name Work also includes: • Affirmations, self-guided questions, meditations, and practices • An A-Z dictionary of qualities to help create your own affirmations • Life hacks for addictive behaviors and moving though trauma and loss • A first-hand account of the author’s personal healing journey If you benefited from books like Finding Meaning, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, or Healing After Loss, then you’ll be inspired by Giving Grief Meaning.

Author Lily Dulan
Isbn 1642503142
Genre Self-Help
Year 2020-12-01
Pages 224
Language English
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Grief is a personal journey, never the same for any two people and as unique as your life and your relationships. Although loss is an inevitable part of life, how you approach this fact can make the difference between meaningless pain and the manifestation of understanding and wisdom. This book describes a mindful approach to dealing with grief that can help you make that difference. By walking this mindful path, you will discover that you are capable of transforming and healing the grief you carry and finding the spiritual and emotional resilience you need to move through this challenging time. These mindfulness practices, explained here in simple and practical language, will help you bear your time of grief. But they will do more than that, too. They will guide you to a life more fully lived, with more meaning. These simple practices will help you experience what richness comes from asking deeper questions about loss and about life.

Author Sameet M. Kumar
Isbn 160882425X
Genre Self-Help
Year 2005-07-01
Pages 176
Language English
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There is little in life that rocks us like the death of a husband or wife. Whether you're feeling alone, drowning under an ocean of emotions, or you've worked your way through to the darkest nights of the soul and are now wondering how to get on with your life, you'll find comfort and guidance from the authors of this book. One a clinical psychologist, the other a pastor and professor, both suffered the loss of a spouse at a relatively young age. Their empathy, valuable psychological insights, biblical observations, and male and female perspectives will help you experience your grief in the healthiest and most complete way so that you can move forward to embrace the new life that is waiting for you on the other side.

Author Susan J. R.N. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, Ed.D,Robert C. De Vries
Isbn 1493417681
Genre Self-Help
Year 2019-08-06
Pages 224
Language English
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Comforting words and practical ideas for living with loss. Everyone experiences grief differently after the loss of a loved one. Some people find solace in comforting quotes and warm words, while others feel a need to take action—to do something to memorialize their loss. And some benefit from both approaches. Here’s a path forward for you, no matter how you process your grief. Your Grief, Your Way features: · Multiple ways to process grief: Find relief through short meditations, mindful reframings, journaling prompts, concrete actions, and more. · A year of daily messages of comfort: Each page includes a quote and a short paragraph about grief along with a practical tip—something you can do to tend to your grief. · Comfort and practicality in short spurts: Discover strength and support in these bite-size nuggets, since grief reduces the ability to focus. · Quotes from a wide range of grievers: Take courage from the thoughtful words of people who have been in your shoes. Whether you’re looking for inspiration, a practical way to honor your loved one, or both, Your Grief, Your Way helps you navigate life after loss.

Author Shelby Forsythia
Isbn 0593196724
Genre Self-Help
Year 2020-09-15
Pages 208
Language English
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If you’ve lost a sibling, you feel sad, confused, or even angry. For the first time, a psychotherapist specializing in teen and adolescent bereavement offers a compassionate guide to help you discover your unique coping style, deal with overwhelming emotions, and find constructive ways to manage this profound loss so you can move forward in a meaningful and healthy way. Losing a loved one—at any age—is devastating. But if you’re a teen who has lost a sibling, this loss can feel even more so. Siblings are also lifetime playmates, confidants, role models, and friends. After losing a brother or sister, you may feel like a part of yourself is missing. You may also feel lonely, depressed, and anxious. These are all normal reactions. But even though the pain feels unmanageable now, there are ways you can start to heal. Grieving for the Sibling You Lost will help you understand your own unique coping style. You'll also find effective exercises based in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you work through negative thoughts, and learn the importance of creating meaning out of loss and suffering. Most importantly, you'll learn when and how to ask for help from parents, friends, or teachers. If you’ve lost a sibling, the pain can feel unbearable, but there are ways you can start to heal. This book will show you how.

Author Erica Goldblatt Hyatt
Isbn 1626252513
Genre Young Adult Nonfiction
Year 2015-09-01
Pages 200
Language English
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If you love, you will grieve—and nothing is more mysteriously central to becoming fully human. When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable—especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting, “NO!” with every fiber of our body. The process of grieving can feel wild and nonlinear—and often lasts for much longer than other people, the nonbereaved, tell us it should. Organized into fifty-two short chapters, Bearing the Unbearable is a companion for life’s most difficult times, revealing how grief can open our hearts to connection, compassion, and the very essence of our shared humanity. Dr. Joanne Cacciatore—bereavement educator, researcher, Zen priest, and leading counselor in the field—accompanies us along the heartbreaking path of love, loss, and grief. Through moving stories of her encounters with grief over decades of supporting individuals, families, and communities—as well as her own experience with loss—Cacciatore opens a space to process, integrate, and deeply honor our grief. Not just for the bereaved, Bearing the Unbearable will be required reading for grief counselors, therapists and social workers, clergy of all varieties, educators, academics, and medical professionals. Organized into fifty-two accessible and stand-alone chapters, this book is also perfect for being read aloud in support groups.

Author Joanne Cacciatore
Isbn 1614293171
Genre Psychology
Year 2017-06-27
Pages 248
Language English
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After a loved one dies, each day can be a struggle. But each day, you can also find comfort and understanding in this daily companion. With one brief entry for every day of the calendar year, this little book by beloved grief counselor Dr. Alan Wolfelt offers small, one-day-at-a-time doses of guidance and healing. Each entry includes an inspiring or soothing quote followed by a short discussion of the day's theme. This compassionate gem of a book will accompany you.

Author Alan Wolfelt
Isbn 1617222402
Genre Self-Help
Year 2016-04-01
Pages 384
Language English
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G. Scott Graham first started practicing vipassana meditation in 1996. In addition to his daily practice, Scott joined 10-day courses twice each year, whenever possible, alternating between sitting and serving. Scott joined a course on December 11, 2019. On the early hours of Sunday, December 22, 2019, the day Scott's course ended, his husband of 31 years, Brian Stephens, burned to death in a horrific automobile accident. Two months later, because of the COVID-19 pandemic, the world essentially shut down. In this book, Scott shares his successes, struggles, insights, and shifts from more than a year of grieving-in-isolation. A year where ānāpāna-sati, vipassanā-bhāvanā, and most importantly, mettā-bhāvanā became his most important allies. Most of the people who initially provided support to Scott moved on, as they often do, from those who are grieving. More than an inspirational memoir, "Come As You Are" provides pragmatic guidance for those who are actively experiencing loss and grief. The reader will find techniques, strategies, and resources. Scott has also chosen to include a month from his personal diary, raw and unedited. An often emotional, heart-wrenching journal where he explored his grief, Scott's intention is to validate the experiences of others who are grieving and to empower them to integrate grief and carry it forward in their life. May all beings be happy. May all beings live with ease. May all beings be at peace.

Author G. Scott Graham
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Genre Family & Relationships
Year 2021-06-22
Pages N.A
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Author Lianna Champ has nearly 40 years' experience in funeral care and bereavement counselling. She is passionate about improving our relationship with death and dying, teaching us that if we live well we can die well. This beautifully presented book is both comforting and practical. Designed with the knowledge that most grieving people have a short attention span, the book clearly presents essential information and inspirational words to support and guide the reader through the challenges of bereavement in easily digestible chunks, with plenty of white space.

Author Lianna Champ
Isbn 1910453935
Genre Family & Relationships
Year 2018-06-21
Pages N.A
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The inevitability of death in our broken world means that grief and mourning are a normal part of the human experience. Too often, though, this normal journey of grief is cut short by a culture intent on pretending bad things don't really happen. In A Road Too Short for the Long Journey, readers are invited to consider how we might travel this road of mourning with those who grieve and how we might join them as partners in a reorientation of the world experienced through loss.

Author Quentin P. Kinnison
Isbn 1532632150
Genre Religion
Year 2019-02-04
Pages 190
Language English
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When the New York Times ran Patrick O’Malley’s story about the loss of his infant son—and how his inability to “move on” challenged everything he was taught as a psychotherapist—it inspired an unprecedented flood of gratitude from readers. What he shared was a truth that many have felt but rarely acknowledged by the professionals they turn to: that our grief is not a mental illness to be cured, but part of the abiding connection with the one we’ve lost. Illuminated by O’Malley’s own story and those of many clients that he’s supported, readers learn how the familiar “stages of grief” too often mislabel our sorrow as a disorder, press us to “get over it,” and amplify our suffering with shame and guilt when we do not achieve “closure” in due course. “Sadness, regret, confusion, yearning—all the experiences of grief—are a part of the narrative of love,” reflects O’Malley. Here, with uncommon sensitivity and support, he invites us to explore grief not as a process of recovery, but as the ongoing narrative of our relationship with the one we’ve lost—to be fully felt, told, and woven into our lives. For those in bereavement and anyone supporting those who are, Getting Grief Right offers an uncommonly empathetic guide to opening to our sorrow as the full expression of our love.

Author Patrick O’Malley,Tim Madigan
Isbn 1622038207
Genre Self-Help
Year 2017-07-01
Pages 256
Language English
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An inspiring companion for your journey through grief. Grief is closely associated with death, but can be triggered when we lose anything with which we have an emotional connection. Much that can be read about the grieving process is outdated and can serve an injustice to our rapidly evolving, modern society. In conjunction with recent medical and societal advancements, new and complex presentations of grief have arisen. As a result, our own journey through grief must also evolve in order for us to effectively heal and even flourish as a result of our experiences surrounding loss. Delivering an eclectic blend of medical and spiritual observations and teachings, Good Grief: The A to Z Approach of Modern Day Grief Healing addresses life as well as death, and provides a practical guidebook for your unique grief journey. It goes beyond the conventional views that we are just a physical body, aiming to enlighten and encourage the reader to use the tools within the pages to bring about a collateral beauty that reveals great strength, personal growth, and spiritual emergence.

Author Shelley F. Knight
Isbn 178904734X
Genre Self-Help
Year 2021-09-24
Pages 264
Language English
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The death of a loved one is a traumatic event for both adults and children. Grieving has no rules, no prescribed course, or expiration date. After a death, the feelings and experiences that follow can be extremely overwhelming and confusing. The authors of this book create a supportive environment that normalizes the phases of grief through clinical expertise, including a lifespan approach that indicates grief is certainly a journey from which none of us ever escapes nor perhaps reaches closure. This is an important work that addresses the spiritual, emotional, psychological, and physical aspects of a person’s grief. Specific topics include: the physical aspects of grief; anticipatory grief; grief through a child’s eyes; understanding grief and spirituality; counseling the bereaved adult; adult grief support groups; death in a military family; counseling grieving children and traumatic loss; messages of mourning; using art to facilitate a child’s expression of grief; and the importance of self-care. In addition, numerous case examples describing real-life experiences are discussed, helping to enhance coping and encourage healing. The text is further enhanced by an appendix containing a wealth of information that includes sample group activities. This book will be a significant resource for mental health professionals, grief counselors, human service providers, social workers, clergy, nurses, and lay volunteers.

Author Hilda R. Glazer,Myra Clark-Foster
Isbn 0398092869
Genre Psychology
Year 2019-07-03
Pages 272
Language English
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This book considers death and loss within Chinese Medicine and related Taoist models, and offers practical advice and techniques, effective recommendations and appropriate exercises for those working in palliative care, with grieving, frail or dying clients. Grainger examines the different ways that practitioners might encounter death and loss - including working in end-of-life care, with those facing terminal illness, affected by bereavement, suicide or miscarriage - in the context of different ages, religious and cultural backgrounds, and offers a model for teaching. Working with Death and Loss in Shiatsu Practice is the go-to text for practitioners wishing to improve their expertise and confidence when working with people at a vulnerable time in a respectful, open-hearted and compassionate manner.

Author Tamsin Grainger
Isbn 1787752704
Genre Medical
Year 2020-08-21
Pages 352
Language English
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Understanding Bereaved Parents and Siblings is based on lived experiences and provides insight, ideas, and inspiration on how to support the bereaved, how to talk to them about their experience, and how to help people manage their own shock or grief. Part I of the book contains ten stories from parents and six from siblings sharing their experiences. Each narrator discusses their relationship with the person who died; what led up to the death; the impact of the loss on the speaker; as well as what helped and what hindered them in their grief. Part II is aimed at professionals and draws on various topics such as grief and bereavement models, transgenerational loss, resilience, protection, and creative ways of working with grief. The book will be an essential read for the bereaved and the professionals, family, and friends who are supporting them.

Author Cathy McQuaid
Isbn 100038750X
Genre Psychology
Year 2021-05-11
Pages 298
Language English
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Rhona sometimes used to say to me that, meeting me as she did when I was only twenty-five, she had had the best years of my life. Truer word was never spoken. While she (to my life-long shame, remorse and regret) unquestionably had some of the worst of me, I like to think, I hope, that she also had — such as it is — all of the best of me. I was twenty-five when we met and forty-six when she died. That’s a hefty chunk of an important period of anybody’s life and Rhona had it. For all its lows as well as highs, the downs as well as the ups — what else can you expect for two people together almost all the time for twenty-one years? — what Rhona and I had, what we created, was a life. And she was, whatever anybody else says or thinks, despite my grievous mistakes, the centre of mine. There are no perfect people in this world but sometimes — just sometimes — two people can be perfect for each other.

Author Steven Payne
Isbn 198459186X
Genre Biography & Autobiography
Year 2021-07-15
Pages 218
Language English
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We all know how this ends is a new approach to death and dying, showing how exploring our mortality really can change our lives. If we acknowledge and accept our mortality, can we live a better life? If we embrace the end of life in the same way as we embrace the beginning, can we transform our lives? End-of-life doula Anna Lyons and funeral director Louise Winter have joined forces to share a collection of the heartbreaking, surprising and uplifting stories of the ordinary and extraordinary lives they encounter every single day. From working with the living, the dying, the dead and the grieving, Anna and Louise share the lessons they've learnt about life, death, love and loss. This is a book about life and living, as much as it's a book about death and dying. It's a reflection on the beauties, blessings and tragedies of life, the exquisite agony and ecstasy of being alive, and the fragility of everything we hold dear. It's as simple and as complicated as that.

Author Anna Lyons,Louise Winter
Isbn 1472966805
Genre Family & Relationships
Year 2021-03-18
Pages 304
Language English
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Become Your Own Life Coach An inspirational book of self-care. For over a decade, four women came together for weekly “kitchen table coaching” sessions that they designed to enable them to support each other through life’s ups and downs. The power and strength of their collective friendship has enabled them to not only survive but to thrive, and the remarkable results can be found in this collection of lessons, stories, and wisdom. With this book, you can learn how to turn any unfortunate event into a joy-filled opportunity. Overcome adversity, embrace change, and discover your power—together. In addition to stories and advice, This Is Not the Life I Ordered will teach you how to put together your own gathering of kitchen-table friends. At the end of each section, you will find tools that you can work with as a group to help each other grow, learn, and thrive. Don't get stuck telling your friends that "everything happens for a reason" over and over again—learn how to encourage them effectively and love them well. Show yourself and others compassion, kindness, and forgiveness. Part autobiography, part self-help book, and all useful and actionable content, the authors and friends pulled from their experiences supporting one another to help you do the same. If you are struggling with work, family, love, or just life in general, This Is Not the Life I Ordered is for you. In this book, you'll find advice and stories that will help you grow to be better than before. Topics include: Managing misfortune Finding courage Understanding money Reinventing yourself Learning to love your mistakes Facing naysayers And much more! Readers of motivational books and personal growth books like Tell Me More, On Being Human, and Carry On, Warrior will be inspired by This Is Not the Life I Ordered.

Author Deborah Collins Stephens,Michealene Cristini Risley,Jan Yanehiro,Jackie Speier
Isbn 1633410935
Genre Self-Help
Year 2019-04-01
Pages 240
Language English
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A TIME Magazine Best YA Book of All Time A Stonewall Honor Book A Reese's Book Club YA Pick Liz Lighty has always believed she's too black, too poor, too awkward to shine in her small, rich, prom-obsessed midwestern town. But it's okay -- Liz has a plan that will get her out of Campbell, Indiana, forever: attend the uber-elite Pennington College, play in their world-famous orchestra, and become a doctor. But when the financial aid she was counting on unexpectedly falls through, Liz's plans come crashing down . . . until she's reminded of her school's scholarship for prom king and queen. There's nothing Liz wants to do less than endure a gauntlet of social media trolls, catty competitors, and humiliating public events, but despite her devastating fear of the spotlight she's willing to do whatever it takes to get to Pennington. The only thing that makes it halfway bearable is the new girl in school, Mack. She's smart, funny, and just as much of an outsider as Liz. But Mack is also in the running for queen. Will falling for the competition keep Liz from her dreams . . . or make them come true?

Author Leah Johnson
Isbn 1338503626
Genre Juvenile Fiction
Year 2020-06-02
Pages 336
Language English
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From the internationally acclaimed, bestselling author of We Should All Be Feminists and Americanah, a profound reckoning with loss, written in the wake of her father’s death. During the brutal summer of 2020, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s beloved father, a celebrated professor at the University of Nigeria and an irreplaceable figure in a close-knit family, succumbed unexpectedly to complications of kidney failure. Notes on Grief is Adichie’s tribute to him, and a moving meditation on loss. Here Adichie offers a candid snapshot of the shock, loneliness, and disillusionment that followed the news of her father’s death. Her family, unable to be together except for on video calls, struggles to go through the rites of mourning amid a global crisis of unimaginable scale. As Adichie wrestles with his passing, she recalls with vivid, poignant detail who her father was: a remarkable survivor of the Biafran war, a man of kindness and charm, and a fierce supporter of his youngest daughter. Here is a uniquely personal, profound work of remembrance and hope by one of today’s luminaries—a book to bring us together in a time when we need it most.

Author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Isbn 1039001564
Genre Biography & Autobiography
Year 2021-05-11
Pages 80
Language English
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Things I've Learned About Loss offers a comforting shoulder to anyone looking for advice on how to process loss and grief. Author Dana Shields, who lost her brother in a plane crash, shares her insight and offers comfort and companionship to readers in mourning. This heartfelt book of wisdom is a beacon of hope to help readers aching to find a new normal. • Loosely guided by the stages of grief • Helps those experiencing grief feel less alone • A beautiful, simple, and sincere book on bereavement When people experience a loss, it's hard to know what to do or say. Things I've Learned About Loss helps reinforce the message that those grieving are not alone or wrong in their grief, even if it sometimes feels that way. • Features earnest content and reassurance that grief is normal • A good pick for those grieving and struggling to cope with the loss of a loved one, or for anyone who is looking for something to help and soothe their grief • You'll love this book if you love books like It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine; There Is No Good Card for This: What to Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love by Dr. Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell; and The Hot Young Widows Club: Lessons on Survival from the Front Lines of Grief by Nora McInerny.

Author Dana Shields
Isbn 1452183880
Genre Self-Help
Year 2020-08-25
Pages 80
Language English
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Since its debut thirty years ago, this favorite by one of the world's most beloved grief counselors has found a place in the homes and hearts of hundreds of thousands of mourners across the globe. Filled with compassion and hope, Understanding Your Grief helps you understand and befriend your painful, complex thoughts and feelings after the death of someone loved. Befriending grief may sound counterintuitive, but actually, your grief is your love for the person who died in a different form, and like that love, it's also natural and necessary.Perhaps above all, Understanding Your Grief is practical. It's built on Dr. Wolfelt's Ten Touchstones, which are basic principles to learn and actions to take to help yourself engage with your grief and create momentum toward healing. This second edition maintains the content of the first edition but builds on it by adding concise wisdom on new topics such as the myth of closure, complicated and traumatic grief, grief overload, unmourned grief, loneliness, the power of ritual, and more. Excellent as an empathetic handbook for anyone in mourning as well as a text for support groups, Understanding Your Grief pairs with a guided journal (The

Author Alan D Wolfelt
Isbn 1617223085
Genre Psychology
Year 2021-09-01
Pages 176
Language English
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As modern society’s routine sequestration of death and grief is increasingly replaced by late-modern society’s growing concern with existential issues and emotionality, this book explores grief as a social emotion, bringing together contributions from scholars across the social sciences and humanities to examine its social and cultural aspects. Thematically organised in order to consider the historical changes in our understanding of grief, literary treatments of grief, contemporary forms of grief and grief as a perspective from which to engage in critique of society, it provides insights into the sociality of grief and will appeal to scholars of sociology, social theory and cultural studies with interests in the emotions and social pathologies.

Author Michael Hviid Jacobsen,Anders Petersen
Isbn 0429574827
Genre Social Science
Year 2019-10-15
Pages 272
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From the host of the popular WNYC podcast Death, Sex, & Money, Let’s Talk About Hard Things is an invitation to discuss the tough topics that all of us encounter. “You will laugh, cry, nod in recognition, and by the end, feel like no topic is off-limits when it comes to creating meaningful connection” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone). Anna Sale wants you to have that conversation. You know the one. The one that you’ve been avoiding or putting off, maybe for years. The one that you’ve thought “they’ll never understand” or “do I really want to bring that up?” or “it’s not going to go well, so why even try?” Sale is the founder and host of WNYC’s popular, award-winning podcast Death, Sex, & Money, or as the New York Times dubbed her, “a therapist at happy hour.” She and her guests have direct and thought-provoking conversations, discussing topics that most of us are too squeamish, polite, or nervous to bring up. But Sale argues that we all experience these hard things, and by not talking to one another, we cut ourselves off, leading us to feel isolated and disconnected from the people who can help us most. In Let’s Talk About Hard Things, Sale uses the best of what she’s learned from her podcast to reveal that when we have the courage to talk about hard things, we learn about ourselves, others, and the world that we make together. Diving into five of the most fraught conversation topics—death, sex, money, family, and identity—she moves between memoir, fascinating snapshots of a variety of Americans opening up about their lives, and expert opinions to show why having tough conversations is important and how to do them in a thoughtful and generous way. She uncovers that listening may be the most important part of a tough conversation, that the end goal should be understanding without the pressure of reconciliation, and that there are some things that words can’t fix (and why that’s actually okay). Touching, personal, and inspiring, Let's Talk About Hard Things is a profound meditation on why communication can connect us instead of divide us and how we can all do it better.

Author Anna Sale
Isbn 1501190253
Genre Psychology
Year 2021-05-04
Pages 304
Language English
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“Still is one of those rare books that catches you up and does not let you go. With grace, courage, and honesty, Emma Hansen adds an important voice to this tragic and too-often silenced subject. I loved this book.” —Beth Powning, author of Shadow Child: An Apprenticeship in Love and Loss A moving, candid account of one woman’s experience with stillbirth. Emma Hansen is 39 weeks and 6 days pregnant when she feels her baby go quiet inside of her. At the hospital, her worst fears are confirmed: doctors explain that her baby has died, and she will need to deliver him, still. Hansen gives birth to her son, Reid, amidst an avalanche of grief. Nine days later, she publishes a candid essay on her website sharing photos from the delivery room. Much to her surprise, her essay goes viral, sparking positive reactions around the world. Still shares what comes next: a struggle with grief and confusion alongside a desire to better understand stillbirth, which is experienced by more than two million women annually, but rarely talked about in public. At once honest, brave, and uplifting, Still is about one woman’s search for her own definition of motherhood, even as she faces one of life’s greatest challenges: learning to live after loss.

Author Emma Hansen
Isbn 1771643927
Genre Family & Relationships
Year 2020-04-04
Pages 284
Language English
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Nothing compares to the sensation of being alive in the company of another. It is God breathing on the embers of our soul. —Mark Nepo, “The Way Under the Way” When we shift from trying to be special to seeking what is special in everything, we discover “the way under the way”—the timeless terrain of that mysterious force which animates and unites us. The Way Under the Way brings you a sweeping three-part collection of 217 of Mark Nepo’s original poems and essays to open the heart, awaken insight, and support you on each step of your unique journey through life. The first two works, Suite for the Living and Inhabiting Wonder (originally published by Bread for the Journey Intl.) bear witness to the messy and magnificent adventure of being human. Evolving these further, Mark Nepo integrates nearly 60 new poems into the thematic reach of the material. The Way Under the Way presents a wholly new work, centered on “the place of true meeting that is always near” and the natural rhythms of opening and closing that can become the art that keeps us vital. “All we ever need is right where we are, if we can open the ordinary treasure that is always before us,” writes Mark Nepo. The Way Under the Way is an invitation to “ignite your own exploration of the nature and workings of the inner life.”

Author Mark Nepo
Isbn 1622037553
Genre Poetry
Year 2016-11-01
Pages 328
Language English
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A guide for parents whose adult children have cut off contact that reveals the hidden logic of estrangement, explores its cultural causes, and offers practical advice for parents trying to reestablish contact with their adult children. “Finally, here’s a hopeful, comprehensive, and compassionate guide to navigating one of the most painful experiences for parents and their adult children alike.”—Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Labeled a silent epidemic by a growing number of therapists and researchers, estrangement is one of the most disorienting and painful experiences of a parent's life. Popular opinion typically tells a one-sided story of parents who got what they deserved or overly entitled adult children who wrongly blame their parents. However, the reasons for estrangement are far more complex and varied. As a result of rising rates of individualism, an increasing cultural emphasis on happiness, growing economic insecurity, and a historically recent perception that parents are obstacles to personal growth, many parents find themselves forever shut out of the lives of their adult children and grandchildren. As a trusted psychologist whose own daughter cut off contact for several years and eventually reconciled, Dr. Joshua Coleman is uniquely qualified to guide parents in navigating these fraught interactions. He helps to alleviate the ongoing feelings of shame, hurt, guilt, and sorrow that commonly attend these dynamics. By placing estrangement into a cultural context, Dr. Coleman helps parents better understand the mindset of their adult children and teaches them how to implement the strategies for reconciliation and healing that he has seen work in his forty years of practice. Rules of Estrangement gives parents the language and the emotional tools to engage in meaningful conversation with their child, the framework to cultivate a healthy relationship moving forward, and the ability to move on if reconciliation is no longer possible. While estrangement is a complex and tender topic, Dr. Coleman's insightful approach is based on empathy and understanding for both the parent and the adult child.

Author Joshua Coleman, PhD
Isbn 059313687X
Genre Family & Relationships
Year 2021-03-02
Pages 256
Language English
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“The book helps you meet loss on its own terms, not as a problem to be solved but as a sign of deep love.”—Megan Devine, author of It's OK That You're Not OK All of us experience loss. Some of us have lost a spouse, or a child, our parents, a beloved pet, a dear friend, or neighbor. In the pandemic, we have lost hundreds of thousands of lives in the United States and around the world. Many of us have lost our livelihoods. All of us have lost our familiar daily routines and textures of work, family, and community. And the losses are not over. Opening to Grief is a companion to this tender time. With the demeanor and tone of a loving friend, the authors offer an invitation to grieve fully, to turn toward your emotions and experiences however they arise, and to follow your own path toward healing. The book explores the deep truth that grief and love are richly intertwined. Because we love, we grieve. And when we fully feel our sorrow, we open to loving ourselves and other beings more deeply.

Author Claire B. Willis,Marnie Crawford Samuelson
Isbn 163341180X
Genre Self-Help
Year 2020-10-12
Pages 144
Language English
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Finally in print! Grief Recovery A Workbook for Widows and Widowers concentrates on the grief experiences of widows and widowers and guides them through 10 weeks of sharing, learning about their grief and the steps of grieving. It is most e ective in a group but also suitable for the individual reader. The workbook has been used in churches with proven success for many years. I was widowed with two small children when I discovered Robyn’s grief group. The Grief Recovery Workbook gave me insight into my grief and a better understanding of the grieving process. By working through the book and sharing my grief with others, I was able to stop hiding from my grief, recover, and nd hope again. This book changed my life. Diane Ullom, Elder, Menlo Park Presbyterian Church, Menlo Park, California This book deals with grief in an organized and sensitive method. It contains a very effective collection of grief review and grief re ection exercises that help readers share the bereavement experience with others. It is friendly, encouraging, and healing. We recommend it highly. David and Jerrie Bell Long, Sunnyvale, California I would recommend this book to anyone suffering the loss of a spouse at any stage of recovery. Don Schreiber, retired engineer, Los Altos, California Grief Recovery A Workbook for Widows and Widowers Includes: Week 1 The Loss - Numbness and Shock Week 2 Facing Our Loss - How we and others are not prepared to deal with loss Week 3 When the Grief Returns - Realizing the full extent of our loss Week 4 The Journey Through Grief - Understanding our personal grief journey Week 5 Choosing to Recover - Taking responsibility for our recovery Week 6 Reconciling with the Past - Understanding our past losses Week 7 Turning the Corner - Starting to look toward the future Week 8 Finding a New Place in Life - Discovering new roles Week 9 Building a New Life - Integrating the past with the future Week 10 Getting Back in Balance - Moving beyond loss Plus: How to Survive the Holidays Frequently asked Questions A Christian Perspective of the Grieving Process How to Start and Lead a Widows and Widowers Ministry at your Church

Author Robyn Ledwith Mar
Isbn 1665538570
Genre Self-Help
Year 2021-11-04
Pages 90
Language English
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When did we come to believe the best thing you can do with death is ride off from it? In Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry, Mark W. Schutter tells his story of living a life with grief that began in his midtwenties. The death of his young wife left him alone, and although life was tough, he vowed to show the world that he was tougher. Remarrying and having a daughter, to onlookers, from the outside, life seemed happy again, until in an anguished night of prayer, Mark heard the words that to be the husband and father he wanted to be, he must: reconcile the past embrace the present redeem the future Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry is a story that will challenge you with questions that often have no answers about death, life, love, and the way we think about grief. In this memoir of love, loss, grief, and healing, Mark shares his experiences, trying to be who he thought everyone expected him to be. This account, written from the unique perspective of a man, questions what society deems acceptable behavior for grieving men and their healing. This journey is one we all must face, full of deep love, painful loss, and the healing of the soul. Mark pulls back the curtain to show how death is only the beginning. You will carry your grief; the joys and sorrows occupy the same space because healing is never perfect, and that is okay because there is always hope. Grief is not something you just get over, and even the toughest cowboys may sometimes cry.

Author Mark W. Schutter
Isbn 1639031030
Genre Biography & Autobiography
Year 2021-09-09
Pages 200
Language English
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Nothing could hurt worse. But even in the darkness . . . there’s hope. The pain of suicide loss is indescribable. It seems beyond survival. Yet with faith, perseverance, and the tools of brain science, there is a way through. It will take time. It will take struggle. But hope is real, for there are things you can do to make it to the other side. If you are struggling with suicide loss or you need to come alongside someone who is, Rita Schulte wants to help you move forward. As a suicide loss survivor herself, she understands the pain you’re feeling because she has been there too. Rita, an experienced therapist and expert in traumatic loss, offers a science-based therapy model that also takes into account the role of human spirituality. Chapters in this book include: Making Sense of the Desire to Die The Mind-Body Connection Unfinished Business Making Peace with Ourselves Facing the Dark Side Children—Living Behind the Shadow The Time that Remains When it comes to suicide loss, you’ll never have all the answers. But one thing is certain: there are real pathways to help you heal—body, mind, and spirit.

Author Rita A. Schulte, LPC
Isbn 0802499104
Genre Self-Help
Year 2021-08-03
Pages 224
Language English
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Have you gone from feeling like you were finally following your true calling as a helper and healer to dragging yourself out of bed? Where did all the excitement, wonder, and gratitude go? You’re exhausted physically and emotionally from juggling challenging clients and the mundane side of helping work. You might even have daydreamed about quitting. Or perhaps you’re new to helping and not sure how to navigate client relationships, run your practice, and somehow still have a life. Whether you’re an acupuncturist, massage therapist, yoga teacher, Reiki healer, coach, astrologer, or counselor, this book is your companion. Discover simple, effective techniques to: · Soothe burnout and relieve compassion fatigue · Enhance your own resilience · Break free from impostor syndrome · Feel empowered to maintain healthier boundaries · Customize your career to meet your needs · Plus, find out what you don’t know about change—this information can take you from frustrated to fulfilled Dr. Jo Eckler is a licensed clinical psychologist and registered yoga teacher trained in energy work, sound healing, and as a death & mourning doula. You’ll benefit from their 20 years of professional experience as a helper working directly with clients, supervising trainees, leading workshops, and consulting. It’s time to go beyond self-care clichés and get the practical tools you need to share your gifts with others while keeping yourself nourished in the process. Start crafting a more sustainable future today.

Author Jo Eckler
Isbn 1734665939
Genre Psychology
Year 2021-03-12
Pages 185
Language English
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Rebound after loss, grief, and the other cruel crises life throws your way with this irreverent guide -- the perfect anti-self-help book. Sometimes your foundation crumbles. Sometimes you realize there wasn't a foundation to begin with. Maybe your relationship ended in a breakup or divorce, or you lost your job, or a loved one died. Whatever crisis showed up to screw with you, it brought everything else crashing down, and suddenly life became confusing, disorienting, out of control. A total shit show. You. Need. Help. Therein lies the problem: Traditional self-help guides just aren't for you. You're an individualist, an iconoclast, a follow-your-own-drumbeat kind of person. The typical sunshine-and-rainbows, "live your best life!" books in the "personal growth" aisle aren't going to speak to your worldview -- you need an embrace-your-weirdness vision for growth and rebuilding. Enter Ariel Meadow Stallings, who has experienced a few life catastrophes of her own and emerged from them with newfound clarity and strength. In From Sh!tshow to Afterglow, she offers a lifeline of support and outside-the-box thinking for times of crisis and confusion, sharing plenty of tactical tips for getting your shit together. Along the way, she never lets readers forget that sometimes a life has to be taken apart before it can be put back together better than ever. Without sugar-coating how deeply it sucks to have your world shattered, From Sh!tshow to Afterglow gives readers a reassuring plan to for putting the pieces back together and emerging stronger than ever.

Author Ariel Meadow Stallings
Isbn 1580059627
Genre Self-Help
Year 2020-07-21
Pages 288
Language English
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The thought of losing a loved one evokes fear. Few will admit that they think of it, fewer still want to talk about it. But bereavement is an everyday occurrence and will happen to everyone who lives long enough. Be proactive: Expected Date of Departure encourages you to prepare yourself for loss and to choose your response in advance. Action-based: Expected Date of Departure gives you permission to think about the inevitable death of loved ones, talk about it, and to plan for grief before it happens. Preparing for loss does not bring on bad luck nor does it cause fear; instead, it can make our world a more delightful place to live in. If you thought you might never get to speak to your friend again after your ongoing discussion with her, would it make any difference in the way you carry on with the conversation? Would you be more attentive, more thoughtful of the responses you give? Likely, yes. There will be more loving and caring if we relate to our loved ones with the end in mind. And if we happen to lose them, we will live on with the satisfaction that there were no unfinished businesses in our relationships. Reviews Thank you for being vulnerable and opening your heart in this way. Your book has touched on sensitive places in my heart; reading it has made me come face-to-face with my fear of losing my loved ones – to challenge that fear and begin my healing journey. - ChiChi Nwosu, Sydney, Australia Captivating, needful, and relatable. Most of us do not prepare for the departure of our loved ones if they pre-decease us. Busola has written a book that gives practical tips on how to prepare, using real-life experiences of friends and family and her own experience of losing loved ones. The book discusses death in a way that the subject does not come across as morbid. Instead, it encourages us to break the silence surrounding the issue with sensitivity, understanding, and empathy. - Ibiba Chidi, Houston, Texas This book is brilliant, It made me laugh and cry, it left me pondering many a question. Very important issues raised, and I love how much of the Word of God Busola has included. Really well written. In my head, it was just like she talking to me as I read. Busola has put a lot of herself into this book and I pray that it helps many. - Sarah Macmanus, Newcastle upon Tyne, UK. An unusual slant to everyday reality. It is still a hard reality for me to face, but face it we must. Yes, we mourn the loss of loved ones, but we are not driven to despair, as we will meet again. This book inspires us to take steps to appreciate the people in our lives every day. Thank you Busola, for this push to prepare for the inevitable. - Abimbola Olufemi, Lagos, Nigeria I like Busola's boldness in confronting this matter. It's a subject that Nigerians, even Christians, avoid, with the crisp phrase 'not my portion'. Preparation will help people to set their relationships in order. - Ijeoma Okafor John-Chieme. Abuja, Nigeria I find this book to be a valuable cross-cultural resource for starting conversations around the subjects of life and death. It is rich with personal experiences and scriptural insights. It gave me the rare luxury to pause and shed a few private tears in the loving memory of my dear parents. - Semedeton Ilo, Lethbridge, Canada. Everyone goes through the problem of the fear of bereavement, but no one wants to verbalise it. I must commend Busola for her ability to capture in words those feelings that a lot of people who have experienced loss find difficult to explain. - Sunday Udoh, Abidjan, Cote d’Ivoire The book is weighty but not heavy and it has given me this take home message, which is don’t live with regrets so that when the news comes of a loved one’s death, we will be able to grieve as those who have hope. I loved the cross-continents perspective (Busola is Nigerian-born, now living in the UK) that actually made the subject matter more palatable for me. - Alison Bowie, Newcastle upon Tyne, UK.

Author Olubusola Eshiet
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Genre Self-Help
Year 2021-04-09
Pages 138
Language English
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Tanja and Matt, two high school teachers, have full and wildly unconventional lives. They travel a lot with their two boys and, as the kids get older and take up heavy metal music, their house is rocking with crazy, wild bands almost all the time. But when Nick, their older boy, gets diagnosed with cancer at the age of seventeen, their lives take a horrific turn. Powerfully and heart-wrenchingly narrated, Squirrel At My Throat explores the difficulties of being a non-conformist in a conventional society, the joy and horror of raising children as well as the extremes of all that life has to offer, from moments of exquisite happiness to the utmost despair, all done with great honesty as well as a vast amount of personal experience. The author puts forth unique perspectives on parenting, family, life and death that may offer comfort and assistance to all those struggling to survive in a world that dismisses anything that doesn’t fit into a neat and comfortable box.

Author Tanja Zientara
Isbn 1525581260
Genre Biography & Autobiography
Year 2021-02-02
Pages 559
Language English
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